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  1. Browse and click on color-coded boxes that appear as if by magic as you scroll down.
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  3. Go to the Site Map (link) for an:
    • a) alphabetical list of all ParenTips.
    • b) A list of all 8 categories with every ParenTip in that category listed alphabetically.

Or mix and match! Have fun as you get the information you need!

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Most parents today give their kids too much, especially too much stuff, and expect too little from them.

Let me list some of these low expectations.

• Parents don’t expect an infant can fall asleep on its own so they nurse it to sleep every night thereby preventing the baby from learning to fall asleep unless Mommy is right there.
• Parents don’t expect a baby to self-calm so they rush in to soothe at the very first peep out of the baby instead of hesitating a bit to see if he or she can figure out what’s the cause of the irritation and what to do about it. A baby can’t walk to the fridge and get food if hungry but can wiggle around in bed to find a more comfortable position.
• Parents don’t expect that their toddler who is having a royal fit (tantrum) will calm down if ignored so they teach the lesson that if you yell loud enough you get what you want: attention from your parents.
• Parents don’t expect that anyone else in the world can comfort their baby so they never leave the baby with anyone else thereby depriving the baby of that great early learning experience: hey, people come with different faces!
• Parents don’t expect their preschooler to put away the toys so they always clean up after their kid and wonder why he or she is such a slob.
• Parents don’t expect a child to do his or her homework without 1) Repeatedly asking the kid, “Is your homework done?” thereby preventing the child from learning responsibility and 2) Checking the homework to make sure it’s perfect thereby preventing the child from learning from mistakes.
• Parents don’t expect their children can figure out how to deal with siblings or friends on their own so they hover like helicopters thereby preventing the kids from working it out.
• Parents don’t expect kids to do their chores so they repeatedly ask, “Did you make your bed yet?” which means the child will never make a bed without being asked to.
• Parents don’t expect their child to get up on time so they serve as human alarm clocks chiming, “Time to get up!” repeated many times.
• Parents don’t expect a child to be able to safely navigate the world without them so they do not give their children opportunities to practice being careful on their own. First you play only on your side of the street, then you carefully cross the street, then you walk to a friend’s house—all with permission of course.
• Parents don’t expect a high school senior to be able to apply to college without their help. Question for these parents: what’s the kid going to do next year when you’re not around?
• You get the picture. Yes, parents can expect too little and hover too much. Obviously it’s a matter of balance. But be careful. The message kids get from a hovering parent is that they are not good enough or grownup enough to do it on their own. This is not a good message. So look over this list and think about ways to help your child grow up, not slow down the process.