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SAYING “NO!”

What’s a parent to do? Your child has developed an acute case of the “Gimme’s” and is asking for things that you 1) cannot afford, 2) do not think are appropriate, and/or 3) do not want your child to have because the possession of these things do not conform to your values.

YOU CAN SAY “NO!” It’s an easy-to-pronounce, one-syllable, easily understood word. What part of the word “no” do your kids not understand? Or, if they understand the meaning of the word, why do they keep asking for that inappropriate video game?

They keep asking because they have learned, (actually you have taught them) that sometimes or always Mommy or Daddy gives in after they do enough begging or whining. Plus Mommy and Daddy eventually melt when they hear the phrases, “But EVERYBODY has one!”

If this sounds like your house, your current parental practices need a makeover.

Start with THINKING BEFORE YOU ANSWER. Tell your child you have to think about it, you have to get more information, you have to do research on the wanted item, you have to find out how much it costs.

MAKE YOUR DECISION based on your research. Talk it over with your spouse.

If the decision is that you will not buy the item, TELL YOUR CHILD NO.

BE FIRM, MEAN WHAT YOU SAY and don’t waver or change your mind.

Give your child the RATIONALE behind your decision. If you can’t afford it, say so. If it is inappropriate for a child if this age, say so. Don’t argue, just quietly say what your decision is and why.

After practice, you will learn the right way to say “No” and, trust me, one day your kids will thank you. You will have cured the childhood “Gimme’s” and maybe even prevented downstream credit card debt!

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