There are three ways to use the new PKR:

  1. Browse and click on color-coded boxes that appear as if by magic as you scroll down.
  2. Click on a category for all the ParenTips under that particular category.
  3. Go to the Site Map (link) for an:
    • a) alphabetical list of all ParenTips.
    • b) A list of all 8 categories with every ParenTip in that category listed alphabetically.

Or mix and match! Have fun as you get the information you need!

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The secret is out – Dr. Heins doesn’t know everything. She is always reading books and journals and magazines dealing with parenting, child behavior and development, psychology, pediatrics.

Wanna know my absolute favorite parenting books? In order for a book to make this list it has to be USEFUL TO PARENTS, EASY to read and understand, contain VALID INFORMATION, and NOT MAKE PARENTS FEEL GUILTY OR STUPID. All the books are paperback and should be in your local library/

o HOW TO TALK SO KIDS WILL LISTEN AND LISTEN SO KIDS WILL TALK by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish (Avon, 1999) This easy-to-read book will work wonders in your home if you have a feeling that your kids never listen to you or if you have developed the bad habit of yelling to get your point across. You’ll learn how to acknowledge your children’s feelings, elicit their cooperation, and encourage their autonomy. P.S. The techniques work well with spouses too!

o SIBLINGS WITHOUT RIVALRY (Faber and Mazlish, Avon, 1998). The most important lesson I learned from this book is that “Equal is Less.” Why? Because kids don’t want to be treated equally, they want to be treated UNIQUELY and parents have to learn how. This book will teach also you the art of preventing and managing sibling squabbling.

o QUESTIONS CHILDREN ASK by Miriam Stoppard, (DK Publishing, New York, 1997). This ingenious book suggests appropriate answers to many of those questions that stump parents, not because they don’t know the answer but because they don’t know what or how much to say to a child. Dr. Stoppard has done parents a great service. She organized this book by topics and, for each topic, she has suggested answers by age categories (ages 2-4, 4-6, 6-8, and 8-11). For example in answering the question, “How does the baby live in your tummy?” for a 2-year-old you might say, “The baby has it’s own special nest in Mommy’s tummy. It is warm and cozy and the baby is safe and happy.” The 10-year-old gets a longer and more technical answer. No home with a curious child should be without this book.

o DR. SPOCK’S BABY AND CHILD CARE Benjamin Spock and Steven Parker (Mass Market Paperback, 1998). The classic. I have every edition of this book. A bit dated in places but what’s fascinating is all the stuff that hasn’t changed–much of Dr. Spock’s approach and advice still holds. Ben Spock performed a great service by repeatedly telling worried parents don’t worry about it or ask your pediatrician.

o And of course I like my own book, PARENTIPS (Development Publications, Tucson, 1999). This is a new kind of parenting book designed for today’s busy parents. Each ParenTip starts off with a list of what-to-do/what-not-to-do followed by an explanatory text. So if you’re too busy to read the whole ParenTip and the strategies make sense to you, read no further. But if you want even more information, a list of suggested books is provided.